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Reacting to Scandal, PFOX Changes the Subject

March 20th, 2005 1 comment

In a March 18 op-ed in The Washington Blade, aggrieved-parents group PFOX responds publicly to the disclosure (months ago) that its president, Richard Cohen, had been expelled from the American Counseling Association for ethical violations in 2002.

Speaking for PFOX, Cohen responds not by directly addressing his loss of professional credentials, but by questioning unrelated claims by activist Wayne Besen.

Here is Besen’s response, as e-mailed to Ex-Gay Watch:

Read more…

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Are Exgay Groups Ever Worthy of Support?

March 20th, 2005 19 comments

Jackie asked:

Suppose Exodus changed their beliefs to be in line with what you described. But suppose that they continue to assert that "SOME people can and do change their orientation to certain degrees, and we would like to help those who want to change change."

Would you still frown upon Exodus?

I used to be an active participant at Bridges Across the Divide. From 1997 to 2001, in the Bridges online discussion forums, I occasionally boasted that if Exodus would stop bullying and smearing gay people (and shouting down science and non-fundamentalist faith)  as a means of advancing itself, then I’d happily be a cheerleader for the network.

I stand by the underlying sentiment today: I will offer moral support to exgay organizations that actually support exgay wellbeing.

In order to support exgay wellbeing, such a group would have to:

  • emphasize celibacy
  • provide truth-in-advertising regarding the poor prospects for significant change in sexual attraction
  • respect the unique life of each client, and refuse to cram clients’ lives
    into political interest groups’ cookie-cutter molds of overbearing mom,
    absent father, football-playing men and cookie-baking women;
  • repent of personal grudges, prejudices, and sinful passions, rather than projecting them onto innocent gay people
  • refuse to "advance" itself by attacking and harming the rights and integrity of others
  • reflect the self-sacrificial love of Christ and the honest doubts of Job, not the political exploitation of Judas or the false piety of the Pharisees. (A few words of explanation: Exodus neither sacrifices of itself nor acknowledges gaping holes in its theology. As has been explained many times on this web site, Exodus sacrifices the rights and integrity of its target population in order to enrich itself. Instead of acknowledging that its humanity and vulnerability limits its grasp of God’s will, Exodus arrogantly mandates societal conformity to a joyous secularism that Exodus wrongly associates with the Bible and falsely describes as "inerrancy.")

Might any existing exgay groups meet these qualifications for exgay wellbeing?

I thought that the exgay project Justice and Respect showed great potential, when it was launched c. 1999. Unfortunately, the project was largely abandoned; its founder became an Exodus member minister; and the site retracted Randy Thomas’ courageous statements criticizing the antigay, pro-theocracy Center for Reclaiming America.

I have yet to encounter an exgay organization that might succeed J&R. Inqueery sometimes looks promising; on the other hand, founder Chad Thompson’s past and present ties to PFOX, Warren Throckmorton and the Iowa fundamentalist antifamily lobby are troubling. The exgay blogs Homo Sum, and Out of the Closet seem to me like harmless daily reflections about the exgay struggle… but I’d feel better knowing the extent to which their authors support or oppose antigay discrimination.

P.S. Apologies to "My True Self" for misstating the focus of that blog.

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Factoid: American Medical Association Position on Exgay Therapy

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American Medical Association position on reparative therapy and health care for the homosexual

The AMA:

opposes, the use of "reparative" or "conversion" therapy that is based upon the assumption that homosexuality
per se is a mental disorder or based upon the a priori assumption that the patient should change his/her homosexual orientation.

In other words, the AMA does not reject exgay therapy per se, but opposes therapists who equate homosexuality with sickness or who assume, regardless of the individual patient, that orientation should be changed.

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1997: Focus on the Family Co-founder Apologizes to Gays

March 20th, 2005 9 comments

PRESS CONFERENCE
A statement to the press on August 15, 1997
at the Gay and Lesbian PrideCenter, 125 N. Parkside Drive
Colorado Springs, Colo., Offices of Ground Zero Colorado Springs

A Public Apology and Appeal
by Gil Alexander-Moegerle
Co-Founder of Focus on the Family
(909) 592-6660
Contact: Frank Whitworth or GMoegerle@AOL.COM
Julie Cooper 719-635-6086
Gary Boetchner 719-535-0320

Hello, ladies and gentlemen. I have a statement and then I am happy to take questions.

My name is Gil Alexander-Moegerle. I live in Los Angeles with my wife Carolyn and I’m the proud parent of three great young people and the grandfather of a fine little boy. Please ask to see pictures of my grandson when we’re done. I’m the author of the new book James Dobson’s War on America, the first book to critique James Dobson’s character, style and political agenda from an insider’s perspective.

I was one of the co-founders of Focus on the Family.

In 1977 seven people signed their names to the legal documents that started Focus on the Family. We were its first Board of Directors. You will find my signature among the seven, along with my former friends Jim and Shirley Dobson, Mike Roberts, Mac McQuiston, Peb Jackson and Bobb Biehl.

One of those seven founders was a ten year veteran in the fields of broadcasting and fund raising and therefore accepted responsibility for managing the day-to-day start-up activities of Focus on the Family. That person was me.

I personally set up the three core operating divisions of Focus on the Family:

  • The Broadcast Division… I was the founding Executive Producer of Focus radio, its on-air co-host, and the person responsible for the program’s initial syndication and distribution.
  • The Publications Division… I was the founding editor of the Focus magazine and oversaw its initial production and circulation.
  • The Mail Processing Division… I established the organization’s first post office box and bank account, oversaw the answering of its first listener letters and the receipting of its first donations, and set up its first computer-based mailing list.

I also started…

  • The Film and Video Division… I was responsible for producing the very first Focus on the Family film, “Twice Pardoned,” which was awarded best film of its type in 1987.

Speaking, then, as a co-founder of Focus on the Family, I have come to Colorado Springs to make two statements.

First…

I recently heard the Jewish philosopher Dennis Prager say, “Civility requires that responsible members of the various groups that make up a culture have the courage to apologize to the rest of society for bad people within their group.”

I have come to issue just such an apology for certain actions and attitudes on the part of the Christian Right in general and James Dobson and Focus on the Family in particular:

First, I apologize to the women of America for the sexist attitudes all-too-often displayed by James Dobson and the organization I helped found.

I apologize to African Americans and other ethnic minorities who are concerned by the continuing vestiges of intolerance in the land and by the dangerous role James Dobson, a wealthy, powerful, white, heterosexual male, plays in promoting intolerance.

I apologize to lesbian and gay Americans who are demeaned and dehumanized on a regular basis by the false, irresponsible, and inflammatory rhetoric of James Dobson’s anti-gay radio and print materials.

I apologize to Jewish Americans as well as Muslim, Hindu, Buddhist, and atheist Americans who are also victims of the dangerous words and divisive political actions of James Dobson, who claims quite falsely that this is a “Christian nation” that should be “ruled” by fundamentalist Christians and their doctrines.

I apologize to the American media, specifically to radio, television and print reporters, who have been ridiculed and demonized by Dobson and his staff and guests.

I am ashamed of my former colleagues for their attacks on you and for their pattern of slamming the doors of reasonable access in your face. And I encourage you to bang those doors down, to investigate, and to report the truth about the threat James Dobson and other religious extremists pose to the American tradition of tolerance, inclusivity and the separation of church and state.

And I apologize to my fellow Christian Americans, many of whom have been misled by a man I once loved and trusted. I hope you will not make the same mistake I made in letting my personal loyalty to an old friend blind me to the unchristian and un-American words and actions of James Dobson and so many of his Focus on the Family guests.

I apologize to any American who has felt the sting of James Dobson and the Christian Right wagging their holier-than-thou fingers in your face, shrieking that because your views differ from theirs, you are ungodly, evil and unworthy of the rights of full citizenship.

Please don’t let these extremists confuse you about the life and teachings of Jesus. He spoke in love. I regret that Jim and Focus have not.

Second…

I have come to Colorado Springs to call on James Dobson to step down as a political activist and return Focus on the Family to its original mission.

When we began Focus, in 1977, the seven founders had only two objectives:

  1. To help Americans raise their children, and
  2. to help us maintain our marriages.

Millions of Americans would say that James Dobson has made a tremendous contribution in those two areas. Unfortunately, the same cannot be said regarding his harmful foray into big-time politics.

I believe Dobson-style politics have been inept, simplistic, exclusionary, divisive and alarmingly sectarian. Mr. Dobson has shown little respect for our pluralistic system, for differing views or for the core skill of statecraft—compromise and consensus building. That is un-American.

James Dobson’s political style has been one of relentlessly demonizing his adversaries. And he has created the impression that the pathway to national moral reform leads through the legislative machinery of Washington. That is unchristian.

I ask Mr. Dobson

  • to cancel his political radio series “Family News in Focus” and his political magazine “Citizen”
  • to get out of the business of organizing and training grassroots political organizations around the country
  • to break off his powerful alliance with lobbyist Gary Bauer and the Family Research Council
  • to discontinue meeting with politicians in an effort to leverage his influence to shape public policy, and
  • to pledge never again to devote a Focus on the Family radio broadcast to politics.

I call on James Dobson to return to the kinder gentler Focus on the Family we seven founded in 1977; to support America in those noble human endeavors of building strong marriages and raising strong children.

Thank you.

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Factoids: Critiques of Antigay Researcher Paul Cameron

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Dr. Gregory Herek:
The facts about Paul Cameron

Mark E. Pietrzyk, The New Republic, October 3, 1994:
Queer Science

Rainbow Alliance:
Paul Cameron: The conservative Christian art of misrepresenting statistics

Press Complaints Commission (United Kingdom), July 15, 1997
The commission upheld a complaint against a media report. The report had called Paul Cameron’s fraud and misrepresentations "not opinion, it is fact."

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Factoids: Political Assessments of Reparative Therapy

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Political Research Associates
Calculated Compassion: How the Ex-Gay movement Serves the Right’s Attack on Democracy

National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, PRA, Equal Partners in Faith
Challenging the Ex-Gay Movement: An information packet (PDF format)

HRC comments on NARTH
Mission Impossible: Why reparative therapy and ex-gay ministries fail
(PDF format)

Finally Free: How Love and Self-Acceptance Saved Us from the Ex-Gay Ministries
Personal ex-exgay testimonies, hosted by HRC (PDF format)

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Factoid: Pediatric Policy on Reparative Therapy

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American Academy of Pediatrics
Homosexuality and Adolescence, American Academy of Pediatrics, Pediatrics, October 1993

Confusion about sexual orientation is not
unusual during adolescence. Therapy directed at specifically changing
sexual orientation is contraindicated, since it can provoke guilt and
anxiety while having little or no potential for achieving changes in
orientation.

 

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Reviews: Research on the Effectiveness And Safety of Reparative Or Conversion Therapy

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Dr. Gregory Herek
Attempts to Change Sexual Orientation

Douglas Haldeman, Ph.D.
The Pseudo-Science Of Sexual Orientation Conversion Therapy
(PDF format)

Jeramy Townsley
Bibliographies: Assessments of evidence for change of sexual orientation

Reparative Therapy: Statements by professional associations and their leaders
ReligiousTolerance.org

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Factoid: American Psychological Association Exgay Q&A

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American Psychological Association exgay Q&A

The Q&A answers questions including:

What Is Sexual Orientation?
What Causes a Person To Have a Particular Sexual Orientation?
Is Sexual Orientation a Choice?
Can Therapy Change Sexual Orientation?
What About So-Called "Conversion Therapies"?
Is Homosexuality a Mental Illness or Emotional Problem?
Can Lesbians, Gay Men, and Bisexuals Be Good Parents?

Also of interest:
American Psychological Association
Guidelines for Psychotherapy with Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual Clients

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James Dobson’s False Focus on the Family

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Soulforce is an interfaith organization that organizes nonviolent resistance to spiritual violence against gay and gay-tolerant individuals.

In conjunction with its prayer vigil this year at Focus on the Family headquarters in Colorado Springs, Soulforce is distributing a booklet on Focus co-founder James Dobson. The booklet is free online; hard copies are available for a donation.

A FALSE FOCUS ON MY FAMILY:
Why every person of faith should be deeply troubled by Dr. James Dobson’s dangerous and misleading words about the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender community 

By Jeff Lutes, M.S., L.P.C.

Table of Contents:

Foreword: Mary Barber, M.D., President of the Association of Gay and Lesbian Psychiatrists

Dr. Dobson Is Not My Enemy: We are both children of God

The Psychology Of Fear: Five false and spiritually violent claims by Focus on the Family

  1. Violent Claim One: Homosexuality is a mental disorder caused by family problems and bad parenting
  2. Violent Claim Two: Gay people want to destroy marriage and the family
  3. Violent Claim Three: Same-gender parents are unfit and seek to hurt children
  4. Violent Claim Four: Homosexuality can be prevented by parents and cured through "reparative therapy"
  5. Violent Claim Five: Gays and lesbians are sick, ungodly people who want "special rights," not civil rights

Strange Science: How research is twisted to promote Dr. Dobson’s antigay bias

Dr. Dobson’s Deception By Omission: Those happy families Dr. Dobson never told you about

Dobson’s Word Is Not God’s Word: None of us own a copyright on the Bible or a patent on Christianity

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